There are several different windows programs that will allow you to pull music from your phone. iPhonebrowser is one (free) as long as your phone is jailbroken, if not, you can use a program by Tansee called iPhone Transfer. It costs money but allows you to pull music, ringtones and video off the iPhone without having to use iTunes.
iPhoneDrive works great. and If you down load the demo and turn on the advanced setting to access more in the 'disk' you can follow go to the 'music' folder where all of your music, and videos are located.
If you open the files into iTunes they will have the correct name, don't worry.
You don't need the full version to get all of this. e-mail me if you want more help.